Which Came First?

A hand shot up during a recent Team Clock workshop.  Having just finished reading a best selling business book focusing on team dysfunctions, she expressed confusion about the relationship between trust and conflict.  The passionate audience member pointed out that the “dysfunctions” model asserts that trust is a necessary condition for eventual successful management of conflict. She then asked why successful management of conflict precedes the development of trust in the Team Clock model.  “I’m confused,” she said. “Which comes first?”

Of course, conflict is much easier to manage in the context of a trusting relationship.  When there is trust, differences are buoyed by similarities.  How, though, does trust develop in the first place?  The Team Clock model views trust as the natural consequence of accountability.  Anything that occurs before that is not trust – it’s faith.

The Team Clock model argues that as agreed-upon norms are tested, partners enjoy an increasing sense of safety with closeness.  If you do what you said you were going to do, there’s a greater likelihood that you’ll respond similarly the next time.  Therefore, I trust you a little more each time you follow through with a commitment.

Eventually, the tests are no long necessary. Deep, sustainable, lasting trust boasts accountability during difficult times, not just when conditions are normal.  What happens when partners view challenging circumstances from different perspectives?  How is this chasm traversed?  Teams and relationships that anchor a commitment to healthy debate in their norms are raising the expectations of trust. When the norms of a relationship include the expectation for respectful negotiation of differences, the threshold of trust is elevated.

Almost anyone can build trust under normal circumstances. Just have confidence in human nature and hope everyone does the right thing.  However, when the landscape is critical and the pressure is high, only those who have woven an appreciation of difference as strength into the fabric of their norms will be equipped to measure up to the test of trust during stressful times. That’s when it counts.

So which comes first?

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  • cynthiakwade  On February 10, 2011 at 1:18 pm

    Very well said. I wish more people wer share the e as thoughtful about issues like faith, trust, accountability and conflict. I’d like to read the book that propmpted this discussion. Will you share the author and the title?

    Cynthia Wade
    cwade@smithhanley.com
    312-629-2400

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