77 Meetings

Four families. Four cities. Seventy-seven gatherings. Nobody imagined the depth of bond that would unfold when the original commitment to meet three times per year was made over twenty-five years ago. Yet, year after year, without exception, participants rotated from Chicago to Detroit to Cincinnati to Indianapolis to enjoy each new chapter of the group’s evolution.  What began as an assembly of eight young adults grew to three generations of thirty-four people spanning nearly sixty years in age.

Rarely does any team get the luxury of sustained membership over a quarter of a century. Most groups manage a rhythm of turnover commensurate with the nature of their industry. In the interpersonal space, divorce is sufficiently common to compete with the recruitment/retention cycles of any professional organization. Most teams normalize the greetings and departures of ever changing personnel moves. Stability in membership is the exception to the rule.

The multifamily team evolved from a common core. A complex collection of relationships thrive within this nucleus.  Each dyad has an anthology of pleasures and pains defining varying cycles of maturity. Accomplishment is celebrated and tragedy is soothed as the seasons wear on. Investment deepens. Trust is unconditional. Innovation sprouts unexpectedly. Distancing enables perspective and adjustment.

Teams are teams. Whether in the workplace, the neighborhood, or the family home, we are blessed with the richness of human connection.  Allow the magic of longevity to cast its spell on your relationships. Seventy-seven times.

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  • Lu Dayment  On July 1, 2013 at 7:24 pm

    Steve, I love it! It brought a tear to my eye. Rich and I were talking about possibilities for the book on the way home. It could happen! Love you all.

  • Tom Myers III  On July 1, 2013 at 8:49 pm

    This is a familiar story I think I know two of the people.

  • Jan Clavey  On July 2, 2013 at 3:47 pm

    I like being part of a “multifamily.” It has a nice ring to it. Those of us who have nurtured this family take great pride in our accomplishment: it now includes our children and will include our grandchildren. Although our initial goals were simple enough – meet and talk and “sample any new beers we can find in the area” – the group has morphed into a core role model for the next generation, and they seem willing enough to appreciate the wisdom that comes with our experiences. Our support group has created new bonds, founded on the love of family and friends and the willingness to make sacrifices to promote its integrity. All teams should be as successful! Here’s to 25 more years, my friend.

  • Ruth  On July 3, 2013 at 7:49 pm

    Great things grow from commitment – your team scores big!

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